Happily ever after: A guide for the princess who picked the wrong prince

So you’ve picked the wrong prince.

I told you so, says Mom. Being married to the wrong prince is a predicament she knows all too well. She was hoping to protect you from similar misery. But you were blind. Until the blinkers fell off and there, at your dinner table, sat a frog. Now you have time-share, a bond, a few children, property jointly owned with in-laws, and a school reunion coming up. What to do?

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Gatvol gebraai

Ek’s 'n regte Suid-Afrikaner. As die son Saterdagaand water trek, dan soek ek ‘n houtvuur en ‘n wyntjie. Ek wil braaibroodjies eet terwyl die wors op die kole sis. Ek wil lag en gesels en trane afvee oor sinnelose goedjies en diep sake, terwyl die naguil se roep my geanker aan Afrika hou. Maar deesdae raak ek lugtig. Of dit die drank of die donkerte, vrees of gewoonte is weet ek nie, maar alte dikwels, om ‘n braaivleisvuur, moet ek teen wil en dank luister na die een of ander half-besope rassis, wat met passie sy ondeurdagte opinies oor die regering en sy landgenote lug. Regtig? Hoe is dit oukei?

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The missing ingredient in self-care

If there's one thing I believe in whole-heartedly, it's self-care. Your body, emotions, spirituality, relationships and work life are all vital for a full and happy life. It seems rather silly and short-sighted to neglect these things and hoping for the best. But self-care would be an interesting hobby at best, and annoying self-obsession at worst, if it was all about you.

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Let's not go there

2021 11 Violence1

"Let's not go there" is a sensible thing to say when walking past a MacDonald’s. But for most of us, most of the time, it’s the worst advice ever. Today, let’s go there. Let’s go to the place we try so hard to avoid. Let’s become emotionally honest

 

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Shame Part 1: People must never know

Shame is huge.

It’s at the core of countless psychological problems, from depression to addiction to personality disorders. It's widely recognised as a crippling emotion. Yet, in my own life, shame was eerily absent. Eerily, because how does one avoid shame if your starting point was to be born so sinful that you deserved to burn in hell for all eternity? 

 

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